I HAVE MOVED TO TUMBLR BECAUSE IT WORKS BETTER WITH MY BLACKBERRY AND I ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY WHEN MY ACTUAL INTERNET IS DOWN
GO THERE IF YOU WANT ME
All the crap that's flying through my head or netbook about transitioning in one place. Possibly useful? Mostly just overflow.
Dear old friend,
I'm sure you meant well when you said "You'll always be -birth name-to me."
But basically what we hear is "I don't care what you do, I'm always going to treat you as -assigned-at-birth-gender-, use the wrong pronouns, the wrong name, and generally make you cry/feel like shit when you're finally alone again."
My dear friend. I should like to let you know that - because I honestly always believe the best of people and therefore expect that you meant well - I haven't changed at all. You don't need to tell me that, "you'll need to start doing This and This." I have always been this person, though perhaps in the past I made attempts to 'fit in'. What you will find now is that the perhaps-mostly-hidden self is now bright and prevalant, and that I am happy and confidant in myself at last.
Nothing has changed, except everything.
Please, even if you mean well, never tell me that I'll always be -birth name-to you again. It hurts, even if I laugh it off. And I realise I should tell you this in person, but I don't want to sound like I'm telling you off, or to get upset. I want you to have time to think about this and realise how much it hurts.
Dear old friend, for me to have gotten back in contact with you after all these years, and tell you about this big event in my life that will finally help me on my path to happiness, for me to trust you with this knowledge and almost-power over me, this shows how much I love you.
Dear old friend, I loved you.
Please don't hurt me with your uninformed opinions and reactions. I am still the same person, but I am also not.
-- Your friend,
with trust and love.
Does not bother me one little bit. All I will have to get used to saying is I have 2 grandsons. Not too sure about grandad through will tell him later.Are we coming to you on Saturday for lunch? Not sure how we left that. Do you want me to wash the sheets for you? If so how soon did you say your friend was coming to stay?Let me know asap. I'm home all day today - so far that's the plan anyway.Love Nan.